My Story

by Lesley Ann Burns on Saturday, 13 November 2010 at 23:19

This is for anyone who is suffering from or who has suffered from Domestic Violence.
This week has been good.I am moving on very well. Writing this helps alot.
I have suffered from Depression and Anxiety for 14 years, since I left my Ex-Husband, Cliff Holmes. He reduced me to a wreck after 8 years of me having to put up with him, which is exactly how it was.

• He would beat my dog and hang him by his collar off the door handle until it passsed out, restricting me and laughing at me trying to help my poor dog get free.
• He raped me on three occasions.
• He dangled our baby son by his ankles over the stairs until I gave in to his demands.
• He physically abused me.
• He attacked my Father after my Father tried to stop him hitting his own 5 year old Daughter Donna.
• He would smash my things, once smashing all my Christmas presents the day after boxing day.
• He would lock me in the house on him going to work, so I couldn't leave.
• He would punch his Staffordshire Bull terrier, to harden him.
• He had affairs.
• He sexually abused me infront of family.
• He would destroy my makeup and try to tell me what to wear. ETC

My Ex-Husband expects to be able to have a relationship with our Children, who don't want anything to do with him. Because the stupid man doesn't seem to understand that all the things he did above he did to THEIR Mother. He reckons he has a version to events happening, which are lies. It reminds me of the two versions of Rhianna & Eminem's "Love the way you lie" song.

"Why did you stay", people always ask me. I didn't I got away. It took me 8 years but I did it. My reasons are (in no particular order):

• He made me feel no-one would want me
• He conditioned me to believe I deserved what he did and that I "made" him do it
• I had nowhere else to go
• I had no money
• He threatened to take my Children away from me
• He conditioned me to believe I couldn't live without him
• He said "You'll never be rid of me, I will always haunt you.

Well I have news for you Dear, I have and You don't!!